Why I Love to Cry at Movies
Last night…late last night I was flipping through the 400 channels of nothing on cable TV when I spotted a familiar scene from a old movie. It was the last 10 minutes of one of my favorite ‘tearjerkers’, Imitation of Life, starring Lana Turner, Juanita Moore, Sandra Dee, Susan Kohner and John Gavin.
I will not bore you with the details of the old fashion plot line. and if you have never seen this 1959 melodrama, I am sorry for the spoiler. But the last scene of Annie’s (Juanita Moore) funeral makes me cry every time. How can you help yourself? This is a funeral to rival that of JFK and Princess Diana, complete with horse drawn carriages, teary-eyed mourner, and a Dixieland band. Mahalia Jackson singing a tragic gospel song about dying, Lana Turner and Sandra Dee balling their eyes out and being comforted by a misty-eyed John Gavin. There is also every other person that appeared in the movie crying like babies because they loved her so much. But where is Annie’s beloved, ungrateful daughter, Sarah Jane?
Cut to the outside of the church where throngs of people watch Annie’s flower covered coffin being loaded into the herst. Then, from out of the crowd you hear her. Wearing an old beat up coat and hat, looking downtrodden and bedraggled. It’s Sarah Jane, coming home at last, but too late to see her long-suffering mother being laid to rest. She pushes her way through the crowd, throws open the back doors of the car and (this is part that always gets me) lays herself across her mother’s coffin to beg her forgiveness. “Oh mama, I’m sorry. It’s so sorry… John Gavin brings her into the car where she is comforted by Lana Turner…”Oh Miss Laura, I killed my mother“. (excuse me, I need a minute…Ok, I Ok now).
I know this is schmaltz at it best/worst. But sometimes a girl just needs to cry and they just don’t make sad movies like this any more. It gave me the idea for this blog. A place for movies that women love. The romantic comedies, the tearjerkers, the fairytale fantasies, the movie that stars a gorgeous man. All them them in one place. What do you think? So in honor of the many tears I have shed at the movies, here is my list of the saddest chick flicks. Your ideas are welcome. What movies bring a tear to your eyes?
Get out your tissues, here is the list of my favorite tearjerkers. I have also updated the list to include some suggestions from reader comments.
1. Stella Dallas
Barbara Stanwick is wonderful as the tacky, but self-sacrificing mother.
2. Imitation of Life
Two mothers from different walks of life struggle to raise their daughters.
3. Madame X
Another Lana Turner movie and more mother’s love.
4. Now, Voyager
Bette Davis goes from old maid to gorgeous and finds love at last.
5. Dark Victory
Bette Davis as a spoiled socialite who falls in love with a country doctor.
6. Secret Life of Bees
Dakota Fanning is all grown up and shines as a girl who longs for the mother who died when she was a baby. (Are we seeing a theme here? Tearjerkers & mothers)
7. Cinema Paradiso
A loving tribute to movies and the power of love. A must see for movie lovers.
8. Beaches
BFFs Bette Midler and Barbara Hersey meet as children and continue their friendship as adults and go through life’s ups & downs together.
9. My Dog Skip
An only child gets a dog who becomes his best friend. Let me just tell you, I saw this movie one Sunday afternoon about three week after having lost my little dog. I cried so hard, I had a headache.
10. Big Fish
Finally one about fathers and sons. Tim Burton’s fantasy still brings a tear to my eye. The great British actor Albert Finney stars with Billy Crudup.
11. The Notebook (added by Amanda)*
The novels of Nicholas Sparks are always to be read with a box of tissue. The say can be said for his movies. Although the book Message in a Bottle was better than the movie, it is still worth renting.
12. Terms of Endearment *
13. Mr. Holland’s Opus*
14. Bridges of Madison County
Meryl Streep as a lonely Midwestern housewife who falls for Clint Eastwood. The scene in the car at the red light…that’s all I’m going to say.
15. Schindler’s List
16. Glory
This one always make men cry. “Oh yeah…you’re not crying, you just have something in your eye.”
17. Notting Hill (added by Diane Lee)
You know how I feel about Julia Roberts.
18. Moulin Rouge (added by Windy)
It is a sad chick flick, not to mention the fact that it is a musical. But is not one of my favorites. Although the song “Come What May” at the end of the movie is worth it.
19. Bambi (added by Gwen)
Does anyone in a Disney movie have both parents?
20. Old Yeller
See #9. So you know this one will send me reaching for the Advil.
21. Where The Red Fern Grows
22. Romeo & Juliet (1968 Zeffirelli version)
I saw this movie with a large group of friends, including my weepy cousin Gloria. She cried so loud, I thought she was having a seizure. She did the same thing for Love Story.
24. The Color Purple
27. It’s A Wonderful Life
I love Jimmie Stewart. They always play this movie at Christmas time, but is more about appreciating our lives than about the holiday.
28. Steele Magnolias
29. Life Is Beautiful
30. P.S. I Love You
Like Ghost, this movie shows us a love that surpasses death and Gerard Butler is much better in this movie than in The Ugly Truth.
31. The Notebook
Based on the novel by Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook is the all-time most romantic tearjerker ever. Starring Ryan Gosling, Rachel McAdams, Gena Rowlands and James Garner.
Dry your eyes and tell me your favorite tearjerkers?
New week: To lift your mood and bring a smile to your face. Happy Endings. “And They Happily Ever After” Movies.












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This is a great post!! I haven’t seen some of these movies and will need to add them to my Netfilx account. I am visiting from 31DBBB.
I agree with: Beaches (definitely) and It’s a Wonderful Life (not really supposed to be a cryfest but how can you not tear up at the end where everyone is singing and his brother flies home is a snowstorm…) and Kramer vs. Kramer. Also – P.S. I Love You (which I went to see alone because I knew I was going to cry buckets – reminded me too much of my cousin who passed away at the age of 35 and left his 29-year old wife and 3-month old son).
Here are a few of my picks: A River Runs Through It (I’m not a Brad Pitt fan but this is a great flick); Casablanca (of course); My Girl; Love Story (I mean seriously I cannot think of a movie more designed to break you up than that…unless it’s P.S. I Love You!); An Affair to Remember…
Well I know there are more but that’s all I can come up with for now…
Fantastic list! Just finished “Imitation of Life” and the tears were definitely flowing.
Thanks for stopping by my blog. If you like Imitation of Life, you should see Lana Turner in Madame X. Warning: Have some tissues ready.
I don’t normally cry at movies. I’m a big tough hardhearted chick! (Whatever) Anyway, I really don’t cry at movies but the one that made me sob was Moulin Rouge. I know! Moulin Rouge? How can that be above Schindler’s List? I guess it’s the way that Ewan McGregor sobs uncontrollably with Nicole Kidman’s head in his lap on the stage. Too much for me to handle!
I love Notting Hill… while it does have a happy ending, it never fails to make me cry!
Movies that always kill me??
Without fail my #1 favorite tearjerker is The Notebook! Terms of Endearment is always a killer as well as Mr. Holland’s Opus. E.T. still kills me after all these years and Schindler’s List is a butt-kicker too.
Braveheart always gets me on those two scenes…you know the ones…she gives him the flower when his father dies and in adulthood he gives it back because he hung onto it so many years?? Kills me every time…
So many…but those are up there at the top!
LOVE IT! Laughed out loud at “excuse me….I need a minute”. You’ve got me thinking, which I think is part of the fun, of what my favorite tear jerkers would be. Keep up the good work!
Some of my favorites:
The 2 that started it all…..Bambi and Old Yeller
Where The Red Fern Grows
Romeo & Juliet (1968 Zeffirelli version)
Cinema Paradisio
Kramer vs Kramer
The Color Purple
Terms of Endearment
Bridges of Madison County
Glory
Beaches
Legends of The Fall
Shindler’s List (so sad I’ll never watch it again)
2 terribly sad ones that have lessened because of over exposure:
It’s A Wonderful Life and Steele Magnolias
Life Is Beautiful
The Joy Luck Club
Better stop now. I’m getting depressed!